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'I often feel sorry for my dad' - Common App Essay Influential person


jimmytangy 2 / 3  
Dec 25, 2011   #1
Indicate a person who has had a significant influence on you, and describe that influence.

I felt that it may not be too strong in the describing part. Any criticism would be appreciated. Maybe I should switch to my teacher who got me to switch majors from art to Engineering. What's your opinion on that?

A bedroom is meant to be a safe haven. Freshman year, a cacophony of knocks threatened to destroy it. That morning, I was awakened to the sound of my younger sister's voice as it competed with the deafening Cambodian music played over my father's extra-large surround sound system. She'd been convinced that I'd be accompanying her to the theatre this afternoon; however, I wasn't about to go that day. As she dashed out of the room, tears flowing, the door followed and slammed shut. A prompt violent knocking at the door following a cease of the loud Cambodian music startled me. "Let me in!" my dad commanded, "I know you hit her!" The knocking continued. Somehow, my sister's slamming of the door had locked it. Normally docile in nature, naturally, I didn't understand his accusations. I composed myself, tears running down my cheeks, and explained over the noise, but he wasn't convinced. "Just let me in," he confided, "I just want to talk." Somehow, the kicking and knocking at the door didn't persuade me. Acting against my better judgment, my shaky hands attempted to grasp the handle. It was jammed from the incessant bashing.

Several moments of silence later and the knocking picked up again, even more violent than before. He'd found a hammer. I, now in the closet, heart racing, eyes blistering, could only anticipate what would happen to me next. He was like a Khmer Rouge soldier as he charged into the room. It seemed hauntingly fitting that he'd come to attack my computer sitting there on the desk. How could it not be ironic that a man who'd escaped Cambodia in the early 1980s would be taking on the role of his oppressors in his own house? What's perhaps more ironic is the story about how he became as he is: I've always been told that he was the victim of a mugging somewhat like Haing S. Ngor in his early days in the US; however he was not killed. My mom's always rationalized it as the fact that he'd gotten someone else's blood in him from a transfusion that he'd undergone, but I'm fairly certain it was from a blow to the frontal lobe that did it.

While I do often feel sorry for my dad - to a point where I feel his actions are justifiable, I've found myself doubting that his steps in trying to spread his teachings onto me are effective rather than just traumatizing. As he brought his hammer down on the components of my computer, his methodology was clear and simple: technology corrupts, technology destroys (ironically). His crusade against technology has forced me to analyze his thoughts on the issue and form my own conclusions. I've found is that this methodology of his is often counterintuitive and a gruesome parallel to the events that occurred back in Cambodia in the 1970s. As I look towards the future, I'll imagine new ways in which technology may assist us rather than hinder our advancement.

agronr 3 / 12  
Dec 25, 2011   #2
The description is great. everything is great.

Great job.
OP jimmytangy 2 / 3  
Dec 25, 2011   #3
Thanks, but I really want someone to tell me what's wrong with it. I've edited a few lines of the last pararaph.

While I do often feel sorry for my dad - to a point where I feel his actions are justifiable, I've found myself doubting that his steps in trying to spread his teachings onto me are effective rather than just traumatizing. As he brought his hammer down on the components of my computer, his methodology was clear and simple: technology corrupts, technology destroys (ironically). His crusade against technology has forced me to analyze his thoughts on the issue and form my own conclusions. I've found is that this methodology of his is often counterintuitive and a gruesome parallel to the events that occurred back in Cambodia in the 1970s. With past in mind, looking towards the future, I'll imagine new ways in which technology may assist us in ways even my dad can't deny.
Buffomatic 3 / 11  
Dec 25, 2011   #4
I feel that the essay contains too much plot and story and not enough description of how the person influenced you. Talk more about how you've changed because of your dad or how your dad has inspired you to "imagine new ways in which technology can assist us."

Also I feel that this is a little too harsh and degrading on your dad. I guess that this shows that you have had a hard upbringing but I dont think your dad is as torturous and violent as you say he is, or at least don't let the colleges know that.

Soften up the harsh imagery and shorten the story time and add more thoughts on how your dad has changed you for the better and you got yourself a winner.
desm2012 6 / 36  
Dec 25, 2011   #5
Yeah, you should make your dad seem more benevolent. Colleges don't want to know that your parents are anything but loving, yet stern, butterflies.
OP jimmytangy 2 / 3  
Dec 25, 2011   #6
The thing is, as torturous as he seems, as violent as he seems, it's truly how it is. Last year, he threw around my ipod in my room while I was still there. It sounded like bullets being fired so police were called. The reason he can do this is because he has the money to undermine expensive things. Maybe I should just write about my Physics teacher's influence on me. It'd be happier. I'll get started on that right away. I guess I want to say that sometimes, the world isn't great, but you should make the best out of it. I guess butterflies and gumdrops are what colleges are looking for, so I'll give them what they want.


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