Marriage, for the majority of people, is one of the most remarkable moments in life.
Unfortunately it is not always as wonderful as it is shown on the surface.
Some families must deal with miserable condition called divorce, eventually.
According to Professor Tamara D. Afifi, these days, the motivation of getting divorce tends to personal happiness of parents rather than unpleasant marriage life. Moreover, some parents even argue of having forever marriage life but feel really unhappy in reality. This condition turns divorce into a very common thing.
Divorce not only splits the family members but also influences stable upbringing of children.
The speaker has described several impacts of divorce into two types, short term effects and long term effects. Anxiety, depression, and low quality contact with parents belong to short term effects of parents' separation. If children unable to conquer them then they will turn into long term effects such as psychological problems and unsatisfying bond with parents . The most horrible one is the children might have potential to get divorce as well in their future marriage.
In order to take control of divorce circumstances, Professor Tamara offers a few positive solutions for children.
The first one is instead of involving in parents fighting, it is better to focus on the future life. On the other hand, mind your own business and let parents handle theirs. The second possible way out is recognizing the emotions, trying to do Self-Talking and taking away the regret. The last essential thing is let it go.