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Should we tell the truth always in order to preserve our friendship?

123toilama 1 / 1  
Aug 26, 2009   #1
Hello everyone! I'm very pleasant to discover this 4rum where I can share all of my essays , to receive criticism from all of you, to learn from my mistakes and the other members' mistakes, too. Thx so much for reading :x

Topic: Always telling the truth is most important consideration in any relationship.

"Is always telling lies absolutely bad or not? It is very difficult to find someone who never told lies in his/her entire life. In fact, this phenomenon is still controversial. In my opinion, telling the truth must not be always the crucial thing in all relationships.

To begin with, the faith is essential for most relationships to survive. What makes you implicitly trust your parents and siblings? It is just because of the belief that they always love you and want to do the best things in life for you. How could an employee loyally work for his/her manager? It is still the belief that does. The employees must believe that their employer want to help them, for the success of the whole company. And telling the truth builds up the trust, while lying destroys this. Even you lie only one time, people cannot believe in you any more.

On the other hand, there are also situations in which we should not tell the truth for the sake of some good intention. How can a kind doctor talk to a patient about his real state of illness? Believe or not, it is better to say something good to a patient. This is also a useful method of treatment, which urges the patients to be more optimistic to help themselves. Therefore, in the certain state of affairs, telling lies is not only guiltless but also helpful, they are called the white lies.

However, lying is utterly an evil behavior without a good intention. For instance, you want to go out with your friends but you are afraid that she would not allow then you have to tell her that you go to school. If one day she knows the truth, your mother will doubt in everything you do or you tell.

To sum up, I deem that telling the truth is the most consideration in any relationship but not always. If you well consider, when you should or should not tell the truth, all of your relationships will be wonderful."

EF_Simone 2 / 1,986  
Aug 26, 2009   #2
For what purpose are you writing this essay?

I appreciate that you are trying to show both sides of the question, but in doing so you tend to contradict yourself. On the one hand, you call lying utterly evil. On the other hand, you say it is acceptable sometimes.
EF_Sean 6 / 3,491  
Aug 26, 2009   #3
You might start out, as you already sort of do, by deciding why truth-telling is important. You might then look at how this determines when, if at all, it is right to lie. You need some general principles you can refer to to justify your examples.

So, would it be okay to lie in the following circumstances:

1. You have let things slide a bit at work, and are going to miss a deadline. Do you admit to being lazy, or do you blame it on a bout of flu or a computer glitch?

2. You are writing an application essay for university. You do not have a compelling personal narrative of the sort they want. Your political beliefs also differ from those you expect the admissions officers to hold. Do you write up the most interesting experience about yourself you can think of and stay true to your beliefs in doing so, or do you invent a story that expresses the 'correct' values?

3. A friend asks you if you like her new haircut. You actually hate it, but you recognize that this is a subjective, rather than an objective, opinion. Do you hurt your friend's feelings, or lie about it.

4. A man you suspect of being a suicide bomber asks you directions to the local mall. Do you tell him how to get there, or send him towards a relatively unpopulated area while planning to call the police.

Would you lie in all of these situations? Some of them? Which ones? What principles would guide you in your decisions?
SPak 1 / 1  
Aug 26, 2009   #4
I find when writing arguementative essays and you want to argue both points. CIn the intro choose a side "to a certain extent" and stick with it and just dedicate one little paragrah neaer the end to the opposite site and refute it with your side. Okay, that sounded really confusing but hope you understand what I'm getting at.

Don't forget argumentitive techniques! :)
EF_Sean 6 / 3,491  
Aug 26, 2009   #5
Again, it would be helpful to know why you are writing this. If it is a TOEFL topic, for instance, you absolutely don't need to worry about the other side. If it is an essay for school, though, you probably should.
OP 123toilama 1 / 1  
Aug 26, 2009   #6
@ EF_simone, EF_Sean and SPak:
Thx so much for all of your comments, I appreciate them so much.
I'm writing this just for training my writing skill and my reasoning skill. It's just in my thoughts, always contradict itself.
Now I understand that it's better to choose just one side and stick with it, in the SPak's way ;).
Thx so much for EF_Sean's experiences, too.
I will rewrite my essay later. Hope to see your comments again ;)
pacha 1 / 4  
Aug 27, 2009   #7
Hi, friends i am new in this forum. can you guys tell me how can i post my essay. Thank you
tuanlnc 10 / 36  
Aug 27, 2009   #8
First, you must register an account on this site. Then, On the right-top corner, there is the "New Thread" button used to create new thread. As I know, we can create the first thread. After that, we must post comments for other threads to get right to create more threads.

Hope this help.

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