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Do you agree your disagree with the following statement ?
Always telling the truth is the most important consideration in any relationship.
Truth it self doesn't exist
To tell the truth - What does this sentence means? If I had to explain, I would say that to tell the truth is saying the way someone believes something is suppose to be or being looked. Truth it self doesn't exist, everybody has your own truths. If telling the truth in any relationship means to tell everyone around you what do you think without any restrictions, I have no doubt in being against it.
Truth itself is not enough to build a relationship because that is a lot of ways to look at something, and your opinion is not always the right one. For example, when your best friend cuts her hair and she looks awful in your opinion. She comes to your house to ask you how does she look. Well, she already has done it, why you are supposed to say what you really fell about it? Besides that, maybe someone is going to like her new haircut. So, you like your friend very much and you are going to say that she looks beautiful.
At the other hand, you have to have some boundaries about lying to keep a relationship health. Otherwise, you are not going to have something that is very important in a relationship, trust. I believe that trust in a relationship means the commitment between two persons in wish for the other what you want for yourself and both of you are aware of this mutual feelings.
To want someone to be happy doesn't always means to say what the other wants to hear it. Especially in the relationship between a parent and child, because the child doesn't have maturity enough to kwon what is good for yourself. Even for adults relationship you are authorized to say something that doesn't please the other person. Like that example above, if before cutting her hair again your friend asked your opinion, she is making you allowed to say the truth. But don't forget: there are many ways to tell the same truth!