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Sep 29, 2012
Undergraduate / What should we do to manage our relationships? The importance of Communication. [2]
What should we do to manage our relationships?
What is communication? Why is it a milestone in our lives? If there is not a powerful communication in relationships what happens? Why people couldn't be successful in their personal lives?
All of these questions are based on communication skills. Relationships with people have become more important in competitive lives nowadays. No one overrates the feelings of the other person, only important thing is ourselves, we've become so selfish. There are so many reason, explanation of this situation but I want to write the milestones of communication in relationships in my first essay.
The things below are the milestones of having better communication. I try to explain and give my opinions for each substance, of course there are so many ones but the most important ones that come my mind are here:
1. To know what you want
The first one is to know what you want. Yes, at first people should know what they really want themselves. For example Sometimes people want to be lonely, they do not want to communicate anyone else, there is need to become with themselves, maybe they feel so tired of relationships. Or in the opposite they can want to be in relationships, making new friendships, being more social. For these reasons person should decide, to know what he/she wants really, after this decision everything will be clearer. But if it's not clear so many problems will come together. Because as an example if a person needs to be alone for a while, you cannot success to reach the person, you cannot communicate with him/her, if you try, you see that you would fail, maybe the person will say to you something bad, something will make you unhappy and maybe you will never reach an agreement. For these reasons you should define the willingness at first.
2. To know what he/she wants
After we define what we want in the first substance, the other important thing is to know what he/she wants. In relationships, couples should share their thoughts, feelings, expectations from themselves. If they tell, each of them behave according to that. As an example a couple starts to relationship and the boy doesn't like to be more intimacy, maybe he thinks that there should be every time a line between couples, they should know the limit. If the girl doesn't know this important thing, after a while the relationship will be injured. The girl will try to be closer but the boy will be bored and then the unhappy end will come. There are so many examples on this situation; I've just tried to explain the situation. After all of these we see that the second important thing is to know what he/she wants.
3. Empathy
The third important thing is empathy, of course. Couples should try to understand each other, if a problem occurs in a relationship, before giving the decision, judgment we should make empathy with that person, we try to understand the feeling, thoughts and we could be able to look with him/her eyes. After we try to do this, we can understand the person and we will act according to this and any difficulties in relationships won't be, if there is some disagreements you will be able to reach to success and happiness.
What should we do to manage our relationships?
What is communication? Why is it a milestone in our lives? If there is not a powerful communication in relationships what happens? Why people couldn't be successful in their personal lives?
All of these questions are based on communication skills. Relationships with people have become more important in competitive lives nowadays. No one overrates the feelings of the other person, only important thing is ourselves, we've become so selfish. There are so many reason, explanation of this situation but I want to write the milestones of communication in relationships in my first essay.
The things below are the milestones of having better communication. I try to explain and give my opinions for each substance, of course there are so many ones but the most important ones that come my mind are here:
1. To know what you want
The first one is to know what you want. Yes, at first people should know what they really want themselves. For example Sometimes people want to be lonely, they do not want to communicate anyone else, there is need to become with themselves, maybe they feel so tired of relationships. Or in the opposite they can want to be in relationships, making new friendships, being more social. For these reasons person should decide, to know what he/she wants really, after this decision everything will be clearer. But if it's not clear so many problems will come together. Because as an example if a person needs to be alone for a while, you cannot success to reach the person, you cannot communicate with him/her, if you try, you see that you would fail, maybe the person will say to you something bad, something will make you unhappy and maybe you will never reach an agreement. For these reasons you should define the willingness at first.
2. To know what he/she wants
After we define what we want in the first substance, the other important thing is to know what he/she wants. In relationships, couples should share their thoughts, feelings, expectations from themselves. If they tell, each of them behave according to that. As an example a couple starts to relationship and the boy doesn't like to be more intimacy, maybe he thinks that there should be every time a line between couples, they should know the limit. If the girl doesn't know this important thing, after a while the relationship will be injured. The girl will try to be closer but the boy will be bored and then the unhappy end will come. There are so many examples on this situation; I've just tried to explain the situation. After all of these we see that the second important thing is to know what he/she wants.
3. Empathy
The third important thing is empathy, of course. Couples should try to understand each other, if a problem occurs in a relationship, before giving the decision, judgment we should make empathy with that person, we try to understand the feeling, thoughts and we could be able to look with him/her eyes. After we try to do this, we can understand the person and we will act according to this and any difficulties in relationships won't be, if there is some disagreements you will be able to reach to success and happiness.
