tenwavess
Nov 29, 2015
Undergraduate / Experience with someone whose beliefs differ from mine [3]
I have always perceived myself as open minded and tolerant individual. So when I realized how differently my best friend and I perceived life, we both sensed a change in our friendship. I learned that we are all closed minded in a certain way regardless of whether we accept it or not. Everyday challenges aid us to be more accepting of another
Religion always seems to strike a nerve among people due to the controversy a discussion may bring. It can lead to arguments and may even ruin friendships. I have always been very involved in my church, I participate in fundraising activities, youth groups and I am even part of the youth band. So when I heard about the bible study group at school I decided to join in and invite my best friend. The bible study group members weren't all of same religious background or same beliefs. Ttherefore only certain topics are discussed.It never occurred to me to ask my best friend of what religion she was, I never thought it mattered.
After one session, my best friend I had a strong disagreement about her point of view which she raised at the bible study session. An argument ensued. We had extremely different beliefs, opinions and were both very stubborn. I realized we were so different. I could not deal with the fact that she did not think like me, I saw her views as incorrect. Why could I not make her see that she was wrong? Why does she not see it like I do? I was filled with angersimilar to if I had been the one judged or attacked. Yet, all along she did not attack me.
Days later after losing my bestfriend of 5 years, I reflected over the incident. I realized I was being immature, judgmental and wrong for trying to changer her views. Ishould not have been the one to criticize or attack her personal beliefs. I was not willing to throw away a friendship we had built over years due to a difference in opinion. Bible study was supposed to bring us closer by spending more time together and learning about something we both loved. came to my friend and apologized. She accepted my apology without the need for an explanation, as a true friend would.
Everyone is different regardless of how much in common you can have with a certain individual. Those differences are what shape each individual and create uniqueness. My best friend and I promised to respect each other's beliefs from then on. Our beliefs had never been discussed nor did they have to be.
I had considered myself open minded, but had never faced something that struck me personally. It was not until I was faced with something personaly different, thatI found my beliefs challenged. As people, we do not like to be contradicted or appear incorrect, but we have to learn to accept one another for who we are. Our varying beliefs and opinions help us have a better understanding of the world, allowing us to grow to the unimaginable.
I have always perceived myself as open minded and tolerant individual. So when I realized how differently my best friend and I perceived life, we both sensed a change in our friendship. I learned that we are all closed minded in a certain way regardless of whether we accept it or not. Everyday challenges aid us to be more accepting of another
Religion always seems to strike a nerve among people due to the controversy a discussion may bring. It can lead to arguments and may even ruin friendships. I have always been very involved in my church, I participate in fundraising activities, youth groups and I am even part of the youth band. So when I heard about the bible study group at school I decided to join in and invite my best friend. The bible study group members weren't all of same religious background or same beliefs. Ttherefore only certain topics are discussed.It never occurred to me to ask my best friend of what religion she was, I never thought it mattered.
After one session, my best friend I had a strong disagreement about her point of view which she raised at the bible study session. An argument ensued. We had extremely different beliefs, opinions and were both very stubborn. I realized we were so different. I could not deal with the fact that she did not think like me, I saw her views as incorrect. Why could I not make her see that she was wrong? Why does she not see it like I do? I was filled with angersimilar to if I had been the one judged or attacked. Yet, all along she did not attack me.
Days later after losing my bestfriend of 5 years, I reflected over the incident. I realized I was being immature, judgmental and wrong for trying to changer her views. Ishould not have been the one to criticize or attack her personal beliefs. I was not willing to throw away a friendship we had built over years due to a difference in opinion. Bible study was supposed to bring us closer by spending more time together and learning about something we both loved. came to my friend and apologized. She accepted my apology without the need for an explanation, as a true friend would.
Everyone is different regardless of how much in common you can have with a certain individual. Those differences are what shape each individual and create uniqueness. My best friend and I promised to respect each other's beliefs from then on. Our beliefs had never been discussed nor did they have to be.
I had considered myself open minded, but had never faced something that struck me personally. It was not until I was faced with something personaly different, thatI found my beliefs challenged. As people, we do not like to be contradicted or appear incorrect, but we have to learn to accept one another for who we are. Our varying beliefs and opinions help us have a better understanding of the world, allowing us to grow to the unimaginable.