paulo311
Dec 11, 2011
Writing Feedback / 'Interpersonal skills' - Self Essay [3]
Please give me any feedback you have. Appreciate the help.
Interpersonal skills are something every well-functioning human being should have, and that sadly I lack parts of. They are a necessary not only for saying what we need to say but also for sharing our thoughts, feelings and behaviors with those who surround us. I want to fully learn to interact with others to fulfill many different needs, such as feeling accepted, respected, valued and most especially expressing myself. Being able to communicate myself in a healthy way increases my efficiency at work, school, and personal growth.
I believe that communicating correctly enhances will make me shine at work and let others see what I'm really like. If you're able to communicate with your co-workers they will see what you have to offer in terms of intelligence and/or sociability. For example, I like to keep up with the latest tech news, mainly regarding phones and computers. Often times I would hear my classmates having a discussion on which phone was the best one but they wouldn't really know the specifications of each. Even though I knew them I chose not to say anything simply out of shyness. Now that I have acquired greater communication skills I'm able to join the discussion. Communication is simply a must have for a successful life from my point of view since it determines a huge part of my definition of success which is to have loved ones around you when needed.
Another good example was last Friday the 14th, I asked my boss Luci for Friday and Saturday of the Halloween weekend off because I wanted to go to horror nights with my girlfriend and I don't think I made myself fully understandable. I hate when I do that because I tend to start mumbling and I feel like I'm not taken as seriously as I should be. That's something I really need to work on, I start to breathe faster and I can't catch a breath to talk, I need to take a deep breath and pronunciate correctly
I have to say my pronunciation is probably the worst communication problem I have, it frustrates me when I know it's hard for others to understand what I'm saying and also the look on people's eyes like "whaaaaat??". It's more likely to happen when I' m talking to someone I don't know but not all the time. For example: If I ask the stranger next to me for a pen I will most likely say that 100 percent clear and without a problem but if I wanted to strike up a conversation with this stranger I would probably mumble and make a fool of myself. I think there's nothing worse than knowing what you're doing wrong but not knowing how to fix it, it gives me a very severe frustration and a feeling of stupidity.
When it comes to talking to someone I'm already comfortable with I'll be able to talk calmly and clearly unless its something I get very excited about which is when I start talking very fast and not taking breaks to breath. My girlfriend always complains about how when I get excited over a subject my voice becomes very nasally and I start to mumble, that just sounds terrible to me and I can't even notice a difference between that and my regular tone of voice and speed.
At school I feel very confident but I'm not really sure what the reason for that is, I usually speak well and communicate with others clearly, the only problem is that I sometimes speak too softly and the other person cannot hear me. Even though I don't talk much, when I do I don't want to have to repeat myself and know that I'm doing it again. When it comes down to doing presentation or talking to the whole class I shut down and become extremely shy. This is one of the reasons why I chose to do a verbal presentation in class, so that it can help me get over this long term fear and make me feel more comfortable and confident.
I mentioned personal growth because I feel that I am not heard the way I want to be, it may be my not loud voice, mumbling, or speed but I want to change that. I want to be heard and understood and I want to make a difference in this world and I can't do so without being able to express myself. I want to be an inspiration for others, to lead by example and do the right thing as much as I can.
After a lot of research and self-exploration I'm starting to see that this has a lot to do with confidence and your development. A big part of it is that but another part is that I'm not from here, English is my second language. I had to learn it when I was 10 years old and it took me about a year and a half to do so. This is why I mumble some sentences and don't know how to pronounce certain words. Deep inside I know that the main reason is because of self-confidence but I will also attribute part of it to that.
I know that the things I want to change such as mumbling, pronunciation, speed, and shyness will not change from one day to the next but I'm continuously working on it because I know I will need it for the rest of my life. There's not a single situation I can imagine myself in where I won't need to communicate, if its with a co-worker, a friend or a complete stranger. Communication is needed for everything which is why I'm taking this task so seriously. I've always known that I needed to improve that but I always thought "I'll do it later", if it wasn't for this course I would still be procrastinating and probably never have gotten the will to do all of this. This course has opened my eyes to a whole new set of ideas and wisdom and the best part is that it was through self-exploration and some curiosity.
Please give me any feedback you have. Appreciate the help.
Interpersonal skills are something every well-functioning human being should have, and that sadly I lack parts of. They are a necessary not only for saying what we need to say but also for sharing our thoughts, feelings and behaviors with those who surround us. I want to fully learn to interact with others to fulfill many different needs, such as feeling accepted, respected, valued and most especially expressing myself. Being able to communicate myself in a healthy way increases my efficiency at work, school, and personal growth.
I believe that communicating correctly enhances will make me shine at work and let others see what I'm really like. If you're able to communicate with your co-workers they will see what you have to offer in terms of intelligence and/or sociability. For example, I like to keep up with the latest tech news, mainly regarding phones and computers. Often times I would hear my classmates having a discussion on which phone was the best one but they wouldn't really know the specifications of each. Even though I knew them I chose not to say anything simply out of shyness. Now that I have acquired greater communication skills I'm able to join the discussion. Communication is simply a must have for a successful life from my point of view since it determines a huge part of my definition of success which is to have loved ones around you when needed.
Another good example was last Friday the 14th, I asked my boss Luci for Friday and Saturday of the Halloween weekend off because I wanted to go to horror nights with my girlfriend and I don't think I made myself fully understandable. I hate when I do that because I tend to start mumbling and I feel like I'm not taken as seriously as I should be. That's something I really need to work on, I start to breathe faster and I can't catch a breath to talk, I need to take a deep breath and pronunciate correctly
I have to say my pronunciation is probably the worst communication problem I have, it frustrates me when I know it's hard for others to understand what I'm saying and also the look on people's eyes like "whaaaaat??". It's more likely to happen when I' m talking to someone I don't know but not all the time. For example: If I ask the stranger next to me for a pen I will most likely say that 100 percent clear and without a problem but if I wanted to strike up a conversation with this stranger I would probably mumble and make a fool of myself. I think there's nothing worse than knowing what you're doing wrong but not knowing how to fix it, it gives me a very severe frustration and a feeling of stupidity.
When it comes to talking to someone I'm already comfortable with I'll be able to talk calmly and clearly unless its something I get very excited about which is when I start talking very fast and not taking breaks to breath. My girlfriend always complains about how when I get excited over a subject my voice becomes very nasally and I start to mumble, that just sounds terrible to me and I can't even notice a difference between that and my regular tone of voice and speed.
At school I feel very confident but I'm not really sure what the reason for that is, I usually speak well and communicate with others clearly, the only problem is that I sometimes speak too softly and the other person cannot hear me. Even though I don't talk much, when I do I don't want to have to repeat myself and know that I'm doing it again. When it comes down to doing presentation or talking to the whole class I shut down and become extremely shy. This is one of the reasons why I chose to do a verbal presentation in class, so that it can help me get over this long term fear and make me feel more comfortable and confident.
I mentioned personal growth because I feel that I am not heard the way I want to be, it may be my not loud voice, mumbling, or speed but I want to change that. I want to be heard and understood and I want to make a difference in this world and I can't do so without being able to express myself. I want to be an inspiration for others, to lead by example and do the right thing as much as I can.
After a lot of research and self-exploration I'm starting to see that this has a lot to do with confidence and your development. A big part of it is that but another part is that I'm not from here, English is my second language. I had to learn it when I was 10 years old and it took me about a year and a half to do so. This is why I mumble some sentences and don't know how to pronounce certain words. Deep inside I know that the main reason is because of self-confidence but I will also attribute part of it to that.
I know that the things I want to change such as mumbling, pronunciation, speed, and shyness will not change from one day to the next but I'm continuously working on it because I know I will need it for the rest of my life. There's not a single situation I can imagine myself in where I won't need to communicate, if its with a co-worker, a friend or a complete stranger. Communication is needed for everything which is why I'm taking this task so seriously. I've always known that I needed to improve that but I always thought "I'll do it later", if it wasn't for this course I would still be procrastinating and probably never have gotten the will to do all of this. This course has opened my eyes to a whole new set of ideas and wisdom and the best part is that it was through self-exploration and some curiosity.