Conflict is a part of the human nature. No matter how hard people try to achieve peace among themselves, conflicts remain a crucial part of our lives. Whether it is a fight over toys you had as a four year old, or a heated argument that stemmed from a stolen parking space everybody has had conflicts, and enemies in their lives.
I am no different as I remember having conflicts (sometimes violent) with my peers ever since kindergarten. Soon, however my enemies became not only people that I conflicted with, but also those people that I felt either bested me in any sort of competition, or got what I believed was rightfully mine. As I grew older I began to realize that for some reason all of my enemies have been very similar between themselves, and so I began to wonder why there was such a commonality.
Whenever judging my opponents I would always try to find faults within them, in my mind I thought that it was their faults that caused them to conflict with me. However as I started to look closer I realized that the issues which were bothering me were present within me, and not my enemies. Realizing that everything that is going in my life is the product of my own actions I began to look for answers within myself. What I found changed my life forever.
I began to understand that it were my own mental weaknesses that created conflicts in my life. My lack of composure and self-confidence has caused me to react very immaturely to simple remarks which I now just ignore. Fear of individuals that I did not know has also created many conflicts in my life that should not have been started in the first place. My feelings of jealousy would often cloud my judgement and cause me to bear animosity towards those that performed better than me in various competitions, instead of understanding that I haven't worked enough to reach my goal, I would often believe that there was some sort of "injustice" done to me.
While there are obviously some conflicts that happen regardless of the person's actions, I began to accept the fact that most of the conflicts have stemmed from myself and that they could have been easily prevented. Not only have I accepted this philosophy when dealing with conflicts in my life, I also began applying this pattern of thinking to my general life, I now believe that the world that you live is the product of your own thoughts and actions.
I realize that I have no "enemies" in individuals, rather it is my own feelings of insecurity, fear, and jealousy that I have to overcome as a person. Although I am not perfect and I still sometimes let my emotions get the best of me, applying the philosophy that I have created for my myself has helped me tremendously, and not only resulted in a lower amount of conflicts, but also in a higher emotional satisfaction.
I am no different as I remember having conflicts (sometimes violent) with my peers ever since kindergarten. Soon, however my enemies became not only people that I conflicted with, but also those people that I felt either bested me in any sort of competition, or got what I believed was rightfully mine. As I grew older I began to realize that for some reason all of my enemies have been very similar between themselves, and so I began to wonder why there was such a commonality.
Whenever judging my opponents I would always try to find faults within them, in my mind I thought that it was their faults that caused them to conflict with me. However as I started to look closer I realized that the issues which were bothering me were present within me, and not my enemies. Realizing that everything that is going in my life is the product of my own actions I began to look for answers within myself. What I found changed my life forever.
I began to understand that it were my own mental weaknesses that created conflicts in my life. My lack of composure and self-confidence has caused me to react very immaturely to simple remarks which I now just ignore. Fear of individuals that I did not know has also created many conflicts in my life that should not have been started in the first place. My feelings of jealousy would often cloud my judgement and cause me to bear animosity towards those that performed better than me in various competitions, instead of understanding that I haven't worked enough to reach my goal, I would often believe that there was some sort of "injustice" done to me.
While there are obviously some conflicts that happen regardless of the person's actions, I began to accept the fact that most of the conflicts have stemmed from myself and that they could have been easily prevented. Not only have I accepted this philosophy when dealing with conflicts in my life, I also began applying this pattern of thinking to my general life, I now believe that the world that you live is the product of your own thoughts and actions.
I realize that I have no "enemies" in individuals, rather it is my own feelings of insecurity, fear, and jealousy that I have to overcome as a person. Although I am not perfect and I still sometimes let my emotions get the best of me, applying the philosophy that I have created for my myself has helped me tremendously, and not only resulted in a lower amount of conflicts, but also in a higher emotional satisfaction.
