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Commonapp Essay: Gaining control of my life



Wulf 2 / 4  
Sep 16, 2017   #1
Prompt* (See end of essay for notes): Some students have a background, identity, interest, or talent that is so meaningful they believe their application would be incomplete without it. If this sounds like you, then please share your story. (There is an option on the commonapp to provide a prompt of your own, so if this essay doesn't really fit this prompt I can just make my own prompt that fits it better)

a story and issue essential to my identity



I returned home to the familiar atmosphere of anger in the air. As I lay in my bed, waiting for the night consume the room, I could sense the vitriol seeping through my bedroom door. Beyond that boundary, a battle between ferocious beasts may as well have been taking place. My parents' words were nearly tangible--their presence as vivid and absolute as the darkness. The house shook from the weight of their fury. Each day, I slipped into dream, anxious for the light of sunrise.

My father drove out of the driveway, his left hand waving goodbye to his family standing in the doorway. In his absence, he became public enemy number one. I, his only successor, was forced to bear the weight of the conflict he left behind. For a time, I was my mother's doll. At first, I was happy to comply. Anything to please her. She would buy clothes for me and dress me up. She always wanted me to be a doctor. She was protective of my hair and meticulously styled it each morning. She told me her worries and fears. Everyone considered me to be so mature for my age, and I hated it. I felt fake--less of a doll and more of a marionette--but I couldn't tell anyone that.

I started to recognize my mental scars. Like looking at an open sore, I couldn't help but wince and look away from them. They were left unacknowledged. Untreated. Without medication they festered. Soon enough the pain was unbearable and I began to act out. I was met with harsh retaliation that worsened the more I fought back.

A push. A scream. A bark. Sounds swirling in my head as the adrenaline in my blood took over my limbs. My feet scrambled across the floor. My arms flailed and darted toward my clothes, my money, my shoes. Within minutes I flew out of the house into the blinding summer sun. Behind me, an unforgiving and impending doom kept sealed by a fortified door. Before me, an expanse of silent asphalt and adobe. I sat between those two worlds, on the lonely porch, fearful for my life.

"I'll only be a few minutes," I told myself. I lugged my heavy legs past the garage door and took the first steps out of our cul de sac with nearly as much trepidation as I had experienced earlier. But I couldn't go back. Not immediately, anyway. My heart still ached with the sting of betrayal. It was not the first time I had experienced this feeling, but this time, hopelessness overwhelmed my senses.

"Just give up. Why defend yourself anymore? You're just making it worse."
The thought of going back repulsed me. I wanted time to stop. What was there to look forward to? I looked to the sky, the trees, the ground for an answer. I reminisced about how much I enjoyed taking in scenery. The gentle breeze and sway of the trees calmed my nerves as cars whizzed by. What kinds of lives were the drivers leading? I thought about my future--the way I wanted it. It was then that I decided that it was my responsibility to determine where I was headed.

I followed the weathered sidewalk back to the cul de sack. Back to the entrance to my bright yellow prison. In the quiet of my room, I embraced my dog and quickly returned to life as usual. I could still remember the pain I had felt that day, yet my dreams for the future carried me forward.

*My intention with this essay was to demonstrate my ability to encourage the viewer to empathise with a story by providing vivid descriptions of an experience I had. I tried to make this more focused and personal, as opposed to my last essay which was messy and closed off. My primary concern is that I might scare the admissions officers off with this story. I don't want them to the idea that I will be a problem in college but I felt that this issue was essential to my identity. I'd be okay with writing about a different topic, however, so if it is the case that this sounds more like a sob story/too personal for an admissions essay, please let me know. Do you believe that this story says a lot about my character?

Holt  Educational Consultant - / 15385  
Sep 16, 2017   #2
The essay lacks clarity. It doesn't really explain what it was that you were running away from. Were you running away from a new problem that your father's departure created? What was the problem? Were you physically abused by your mother? Was there a violence in the household that you were trying to run away from? The story is indeed personal and isn't the typical college admission essay for either this prompt or an open topic presentation. The scars may be of true importance to you, but it may lead the reviewer to think that you will be a student that needs "extra help" and "supervision" if you are admitted to the student community of the university. Had the essay included information that showed how you were seeking help to handle this trauma in your life, then that would have been a different story.

Right now, this essay sounds like it would be passed on to student counseling services for further review before your admission is decided upon. I do not think that is the place where you want your application to go to. Normally, the background story helps to define the person in terms of personality growth, achievement, or an explanation of a situation that the student felt was a growing experience that needed to be shared. That is not the case with this essay.

If I were the person reviewing this essay, I would question the mental capacity of the student to be able to function normally in a student setting. Based upon this experience, would he pose a violent threat to the student body? Is he someone who could be a security risk to the university community at large? Why did he not seek help for his traumatic situation? What would happen if the expectations of this student are not met while attending college for one reason of another? What if his future isn't what he hoped it would be based upon his future college performance? The main question in the back of my mind would be "Could this student eventually lash out at his peer and professors?" If I answer yes to this question then, your application is dead in the water.

Perhaps it is because you tried to be too imaginative, too engaging, to descriptive in the essay. Maybe the observations I made were not your intention, but that is what came across. Sometimes, being too poetic results in an adverse presentation. I believe that you may have gone a bit overboard and you need to dial it back a bit. A messy divorce is hard enough for a child to discuss, using it to highlight your background is even tougher. Try to balance the essay so that the security concerns that I mentioned doesn't become the end result of your written work. Better yet, try to pick a different topic for it.

My apologies for being so blunt. I just want to be truthful with you and let you know that the essay that you wrote might not prove to be as beneficial as you hoped it would be. I will understand if you think otherwise and ignore my advice. I apologize for hurting your feelings.
OP Wulf 2 / 4  
Sep 16, 2017   #3
Thanks, I needed this kind of direct feedback. I was sort of expecting it haha :)


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