Alexbig /
Jun 29, 2009 #1
Hello. This is my first draft on reflection friendship. please read it and tell me if it is okay. I know there are a lot of grammar mistake, sentence fragments. please help me correct them. thank you very much.
"Whosoever is delighted in solitude, is either a wild beast or a god" (Of Friendship 52). In our society, nobody can live without friends. Life without friendship is like a rose without rain. Life becomes more colorful when we have the true friendship. But what is friendship? I guess most of us are still in a puzzling state about what friendship is. Maybe some of us define friendship according our life experiences. Somehow different experiences make up different meaning of friendship for different people. I believe with different time, place, emotion and situation, we have different understanding of friendship. Friendship is about act; it is not a state of mind. A true friend can support us while we are on the right path and can have the courage to stand in front of you when you are in the wrong way.
Our friendships change while we grow up, especially for teenagers. The teenage years are a time of physical, emotional, and social growth and change. As teenagers, we all want to make friends. The more the better because once other people see we have a lot of friends, they will think we are popular and envy us. When we are younger, our parents control us. We do not have time to make our own friends. As we grow up, our parents give us more free time. We start to make our own friends and like to hang out with them. In that time, we cannot figure out what are good friends or bad friends because of limited knowledge and life experience. Teenagers are easily influence by others and we grow up and graduate from schools, most of us may make friends and are very careful of whom we choose. Why do we start to choose friends? As we grow up, we start to realize what true friends are. We have more experiences in life. We know what kind of friends we need. When people are middle aged, they do not make many new friends. They do have a few best friends. Most of middle age people put their focus on their family. They don't have much time for friends. For example, like my parents, they spend most of their time on work and family. I see it happens in most families.
However we change, we all desire to have friends. In life everyone will meet many people that say that they are your friend but you will only make a few true friends. But what is a true friend? A friend who can always comfort us when we are alone and feel so lonely; a friend that comes all the way to lend his money to us when we need money; a friend dares to stand out to warn us that we should keep modest when we are proud; a friend is someone that will stand by you, even the toughest times. A true friend is very rare like diamonds.
A true friend doesn't just help us; he also should know us inside out and accept us for who we are. A true friend is someone that we can trust completely and utterly with anything. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that other people will know next day. "Because of our friendship, I have not concealed these things from you" (Bacon 54). When we find we must be careful how we say things, and then it is something other than friendship. We have to trust our feelings. Once we are uncomfortable with our friend and they don't respect us, we should start to think they are true friends or not. We don't need to know people for that long for them to be true friends, but we have to be comfortable with them and sharing everything. For example, my best friend is the person with whom I feel most comfortable in the world (not including my family). When I am with him, I don't need to worry about the silences that happen all the time with other people. He is not awkward either, he is comfortable with me. He also is the person I trust the most in my life with everything I have. I know that if I am in trouble or really need someone to talk to, even at two am in morning, he is happy to listen. A true friend is someone whom we don't have to worry about being courtesy. We can call our friend at any time and without any thought of time on our mind.
True friends never fade away, in fact, they grow better with time. True friendship comes so rarely, and without friendship, we are lost. Whatever happens, we should keep our true friends close to our heart, tell them how they are important to us and not let them slip away. If they do, go out and get them back.
"Whosoever is delighted in solitude, is either a wild beast or a god" (Of Friendship 52). In our society, nobody can live without friends. Life without friendship is like a rose without rain. Life becomes more colorful when we have the true friendship. But what is friendship? I guess most of us are still in a puzzling state about what friendship is. Maybe some of us define friendship according our life experiences. Somehow different experiences make up different meaning of friendship for different people. I believe with different time, place, emotion and situation, we have different understanding of friendship. Friendship is about act; it is not a state of mind. A true friend can support us while we are on the right path and can have the courage to stand in front of you when you are in the wrong way.
Our friendships change while we grow up, especially for teenagers. The teenage years are a time of physical, emotional, and social growth and change. As teenagers, we all want to make friends. The more the better because once other people see we have a lot of friends, they will think we are popular and envy us. When we are younger, our parents control us. We do not have time to make our own friends. As we grow up, our parents give us more free time. We start to make our own friends and like to hang out with them. In that time, we cannot figure out what are good friends or bad friends because of limited knowledge and life experience. Teenagers are easily influence by others and we grow up and graduate from schools, most of us may make friends and are very careful of whom we choose. Why do we start to choose friends? As we grow up, we start to realize what true friends are. We have more experiences in life. We know what kind of friends we need. When people are middle aged, they do not make many new friends. They do have a few best friends. Most of middle age people put their focus on their family. They don't have much time for friends. For example, like my parents, they spend most of their time on work and family. I see it happens in most families.
However we change, we all desire to have friends. In life everyone will meet many people that say that they are your friend but you will only make a few true friends. But what is a true friend? A friend who can always comfort us when we are alone and feel so lonely; a friend that comes all the way to lend his money to us when we need money; a friend dares to stand out to warn us that we should keep modest when we are proud; a friend is someone that will stand by you, even the toughest times. A true friend is very rare like diamonds.
A true friend doesn't just help us; he also should know us inside out and accept us for who we are. A true friend is someone that we can trust completely and utterly with anything. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that other people will know next day. "Because of our friendship, I have not concealed these things from you" (Bacon 54). When we find we must be careful how we say things, and then it is something other than friendship. We have to trust our feelings. Once we are uncomfortable with our friend and they don't respect us, we should start to think they are true friends or not. We don't need to know people for that long for them to be true friends, but we have to be comfortable with them and sharing everything. For example, my best friend is the person with whom I feel most comfortable in the world (not including my family). When I am with him, I don't need to worry about the silences that happen all the time with other people. He is not awkward either, he is comfortable with me. He also is the person I trust the most in my life with everything I have. I know that if I am in trouble or really need someone to talk to, even at two am in morning, he is happy to listen. A true friend is someone whom we don't have to worry about being courtesy. We can call our friend at any time and without any thought of time on our mind.
True friends never fade away, in fact, they grow better with time. True friendship comes so rarely, and without friendship, we are lost. Whatever happens, we should keep our true friends close to our heart, tell them how they are important to us and not let them slip away. If they do, go out and get them back.