Hi guys please comment and critique ( i know its not that good )
Pulling yourself out of suicidal thoughts is one thing; doing the same for somebody else is a lot more demanding. The absence of our father coupled with the fact that my brother had no real friends meant that I had to bear the brunt of his feelings.
I am still unsure about the cause of his inferiority complex. Social awkwardness, peer pressure and the list can go on and on. From what I had deduced from his confessions; all he was doing was assuming that people would not like him behind his back. I first went hard on him; scolding him for believing what he only had assumed. Only later I realized that my brother was building stone walls around him; I tried to remove them my own way yet was overwhelmed by the fear of crippling the walls over him.
I had almost given up on him; mostly out of frustration while blaming him for not changing his beliefs. But I was forced to rethink my strategy when he confessed to me about having suicidal thoughts. Maybe I was doing the wrong thing by being inflexible with a stubborn individual. I tried to put myself in his shoes , something I had never thought of before, and realized that what he required was confidence boosts, not scolding. I tried to improve my attitude towards him; encouraging him for the tiniest of appreciable deeds. Gradually he did get out of his suicidal stupor.
The major lesson I learnt from this experience was that blaming other's for one's failures can be called "consoling yourself" at best -"satisfying your ego" at worst. Continuous failures do not indicate that one is not capable of doing something; merely that one is trying to reach his goal, the wrong way.
Pulling yourself out of suicidal thoughts is one thing; doing the same for somebody else is a lot more demanding. The absence of our father coupled with the fact that my brother had no real friends meant that I had to bear the brunt of his feelings.
I am still unsure about the cause of his inferiority complex. Social awkwardness, peer pressure and the list can go on and on. From what I had deduced from his confessions; all he was doing was assuming that people would not like him behind his back. I first went hard on him; scolding him for believing what he only had assumed. Only later I realized that my brother was building stone walls around him; I tried to remove them my own way yet was overwhelmed by the fear of crippling the walls over him.
I had almost given up on him; mostly out of frustration while blaming him for not changing his beliefs. But I was forced to rethink my strategy when he confessed to me about having suicidal thoughts. Maybe I was doing the wrong thing by being inflexible with a stubborn individual. I tried to put myself in his shoes , something I had never thought of before, and realized that what he required was confidence boosts, not scolding. I tried to improve my attitude towards him; encouraging him for the tiniest of appreciable deeds. Gradually he did get out of his suicidal stupor.
The major lesson I learnt from this experience was that blaming other's for one's failures can be called "consoling yourself" at best -"satisfying your ego" at worst. Continuous failures do not indicate that one is not capable of doing something; merely that one is trying to reach his goal, the wrong way.
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