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Honesty is always the most important consideration in any relationship - statement essay


Adamtong 9 / 32 2  
Sep 26, 2014   #1
Do you agree or disagree with following statement?
Always telling the truth is the most important consideration in any relationship.


We are educated by our parents and schools about the value of honesty since we understand the meaning of the words "yes" and "no". However, we can always see some cases from a film or in our daily life, that a person really benefits more or less from lies. I guess, this is the reason why people lies in a relationship nowadays. As for me, I always want to be an honest person and make friends with honest people.

While I would admit that a person lying has certain reasons and may benefit from it for a time. However, for most cases, the reason a person lying to another is he considering more about himself even if that means hurting the feeling of the person who trusts him. If so, I can barely see any reasons for the person who are hurt to continue the relationship basing on no respect or kindness. Furthermore, A lie always follows with another lie until the liar even forgets what the truth looks like. Comparing to live in lies and guilty, he'd better confess his dishonesty to his friend and beg for forgiveness. Whether the apology is accepted or not, your friend thus can realize your sincerity and respect for the relationship and you can relieve from the infinite lies.

Because of lies, a person may lose the trust from our friends, suffering from the guilty of continuous lies and eventual losing the foundation of a relationship. I want to be a honest person and treat my relationships honestly. At the same time I expect honesty from my friends, families and even country just as a proper society expect honesty from us. Yes, telling the truth is always the most important consideration in any relationship.

Vns9x 102 / 236 16  
Sep 26, 2014   #2
Pretty good essay, however try to provide some examples or personal experience to extend and strengthen it;)
vangiespen - / 4,137 1449  
Sep 26, 2014   #3
We are educated by our parents and schools about the value [...] honest person and make friends with honest people

- I am not really sure what the relevance of yes and no is to the thesis. Rather, you should have opened with a discussion about how our parents are disappointed or angry with us the minute they discover that we have learned how to lie and be dishonest with them. That would be more in line with the prompt.

While I would admit that a person lying has certain [...] the relationship and you can relieve from the infinite lies.

- I agree with Vns, the essay will benefit greatly from the use of examples. Hopefully you can use examples that come from your personal experience or the experience of people close to you. Explain the repercussions of dishonesty in such instances, even if it was done with good intentions in mind.

Because of lies, a person may lose the trust from [...] the most important consideration in any relationship.

- This is a very weak conclusion. It is almost as weak as your introduction. You need to strengthen your earlier arguments in order to create a solid conclusion for this essay.

Adam, I hate to say this but this is one of your weakest essays. It needs a lot of work content-wise before it can even be ready for a preliminary grammar clean up :-(
william731 18 / 43 13  
Sep 26, 2014   #4
I guess, this is the reason why people lies in a relationship nowadays

lie

the reason a person lying to another is he considering more about himself even if that means hurting the feeling of the person who trusts him

The reason why people lie is because they consider more about themselves even if that means hurting other people's feeling.
If you want to use a person, it is better to say he or she. because that person could be a man or woman. So it would be better to say people instead.

I can barely see any reasons for the person who are hurt to continue the relationship basing on no respect or kindness

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even if she already doesn't eat anything for three days.

has not eaten anything

Try to avoid using contraction in formal essay
OP Adamtong 9 / 32 2  
Sep 26, 2014   #5
Do you agree or disagree with following statement?
Always telling the truth is the most important consideration in any relationship.

Thanks, guys!

Adam, I hate to say this but this is one of your weakest essays. It needs a lot of work content-wise before it can even be ready for a preliminary grammar clean up :-(

Haha! I really have thought that is a pretty good issue until noticing the face of ":-(". You know that I would always appreciate the suggestions from you. And here is my revision. looking forward for your ideas.

Revision

We are educated to be honest when we first give a glance on the word honesty. I can still remember, after telling a lie about my grade in primary high school, the angry and disappointed face of my mother. That seems just happened yesterday. So, in spite of several lures of lies, I would always want to be an honest person and make friends with honest people.

While I would admit that a person lying has certain reasons and may benefit from it for a time. However, for most cases, dishonesty is a behavior of betrayal to the person who trusts you. This behavior often turns out to hurt both the person you lying to and yourself. The reason my mother feels sad is not that I get a bad grade in a exam, even not that I do not work hard at school, but that I feel I can not trust her and do not have the courage to tell her the truth. In fact, I feel bad too. After lying, I always wonder what if my teacher phones my mom or demands a signature on our report. I feel even more awful after seeing the disappointed face of my mom. The taste of regret and shame is terrible.

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vangiespen - / 4,137 1449  
Sep 26, 2014   #6
Let me try to rework the sentences for you and offer some suggestions to help you further polish the essay :-)

We are educated to be honest when we first [...] person and make friends with honest people.

- Our parents try to instill the value and meaning of honesty [...]

While I would admit that a person lying has [...] The taste of regret and shame is terrible.

- Being dishonest seems to be the right thing to do sometimes. [...]

Mothers can always forgive their children. But in other cases, say a friend, if you cheat him badly, lie to him, and he finds out the truth through other ways, then there is not surprise that's the end of your relationship. A good relationship is based on the trust from each other. Trust is such a magic and vulnerable thing, once being betrayed, then quite hard to repair it. So if we appreciate the relationship with a person, then we'd better be honest.

- Rather than using this paragraph, try to develop a paragraph that shows the benefit of being honest with our parents in terms of the grades, good or bad that one receives. It will help to strengthen your personal point of view later on in the paper.

Although lying can help us achieve certain purpose for a time, that is not good for a relationship. People in a relationship both suffer from a lie. Trust between people can hardly remains and thus a lie can really push a relationship into a degree of being broken. Considering all the factors listed above, I would say, telling the truth is the most important consideration in a relationship.

- We can rework this conclusion once you have applied the necessary edits to the essay :-) That way this concluding statement will be very strong and reliable in terms of information and sources.
OP Adamtong 9 / 32 2  
Sep 26, 2014   #7
Thanks, Pen
I have "polished" the essay after your supervision. To make it seem as a whole, I copy your intro & first para as part of the new issue and revised sec para & conclusion.

Our parents try to instill the value and meaning of honesty into us starting on the day when we first tell a lie. It could be a lie to cover up something as simple as spilled milk, or as complex as a dent in the family car that we borrowed for a trip to the mall. None of us will ever forget the disappointed look on our parents faces on the day when we first learn to cover up for our mistakes. When we get caught being dishonest. Having experienced that first hand, I told myself that I would always strive to be honest with my friends and family members because it is the right thing to do.

Being dishonest seems to be the right thing to do sometimes. Specially if it will provide a benefit in the short term for whoever decided to be dishonest. These people do not see dishonesty as a betrayal of trust. Instead, they see it as a way of delaying the truth about their situation. Students like us are all to familiar with this situation. Specially around grade giving season when any failing marks could cause a very serious relationship problem between the failing grade kids and parents. Lying makes the kids think that they can delay the truth about their grades endlessly, the truth is that it will eventually be found out and cause a bigger problem for them because they did not tell their parents the truth about their grades when they had the chance to.

Lying is not an efficient way to solve a problem even if the lie is believed. Life filling with many problems, compared to escaping from it by telling a lie, we'd better build up our courage to face and tell the truth. Parents can't provide any help to a kid when they do not even know he is in trouble. It is highly possible that the result of his next exam would not be good, since without the help of parents, a kid would commonly feel lost and despaired in cases like that. On the other hand, if a kid honestly telling the truth, parents can analyze problems with him, providing some valuable suggestions and solutions such as inviting a tutor to guide his study, or adjusting his study habits and strategies. Thus in long term, the kid would benefit after all.

Covering up something doesn't means that doesn't happen. Lies will always be found out since it is not truth. Instead of waiting a lie turns out to be a bigger trouble, why don't we be honest in a relationship in the first place. Yes, we should always be honest in a relationship since it is more advisable.

Thanks again! And last essay about " gap-year", I will revise it in some time. Good day! :-)
vangiespen - / 4,137 1449  
Sep 27, 2014   #8
See if this works for you Adam :-)

Our parents try to instill the value and meaning [...]

- When we get caught being dishonest, we destroy the relationship that we have with people. A relationship that was primarily built on blind trust for one another.

Life filling with many problems, compared to escaping [...]

- Life is filled with many problems. The temptation to lie will only get stronger as our responsibilities begin to pile up and we begin to take more responsibility for our actions. By learning to be honest and not hiding the truth from the people who can help us when we are in trouble, we learn that dishonesty is not something that can help us get out of problematic situations. A person who tells the truth will always get the help he needs before the problem gets worse. A person who is dishonest, does not get the help he needs until it is too late to fix the problem. Take for example, the case of a child failing in class. If he tells his parents he is having problems in a class, they can get a tutor to help him pass. If he is dishonest and does not tell the truth about his problems in school, he will fail the class. Then his parents will be mad because he was dishonest about how he was doing in school and they only found out about it when it was too late to help him. Our responsibility as students is to pass our class, our parents can help us do that but only if we are honest enough to ask for their help. Asking for help in this instance, is not a weakness but rather a sign of maturity and responsibility with regards to our duties as a student.

Covering up something doesn't means thatdoesn't happen.
Instead of waiting a lie turns out to be a bigger trouble, why don't we be honest in a relationship in the first place. Yes, we should always be honest in a relationship since it is more advisable.

- ... doesn't meanit did not happen. My examples about honest above proves that honesty must always be an important consideration in any relationship.
OP Adamtong 9 / 32 2  
Sep 30, 2014   #9
thanks, dear pen.

I have written a new essay, and I'm kinda proud of it. I would appreciate your supervision:-)


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